Healing from an eating disorder isn’t a linear process, and recovery doesn’t look like a one-size-fits-all treatment plan. A common misconception—and a harmful one at that—is that a successful recovery is one that doesn’t have any setbacks and is a “complete” recovery.
We need to redefine what “success” actually means when it comes to recovering from an eating disorder, shifting the focus to personal growth, self-compassion, and resilience.
Challenging the Traditional View of Success
Having a “finish line” mentality and striving to reach what many may deem as a successful recovery can do more harm than good. While it’s good to have a goal when it comes to recovery, some expectations can result in feelings of guilt or failure if you don’t reach that “finish line.”
Rigid goals or milestones, like reaching a specific weight or getting completely symptom-free, can create a lot of pressure and actually make recovery a lot harder.
It’s important to remember that recovery is a lifelong process—you’re not magically recovered from an eating disorder after completing a treatment program. Healing isn’t just about reaching that goal weight; it’s about maintenance, relapse prevention, and ongoing self-care. These are all things that a good treatment program will help you navigate.
Success Look Different for Everyone
The first thing to understand when embarking on your recovery journey is that each person’s path depends on their individual needs, culture, and life circumstances. Each person’s goal will look different, so it’s essential not to compare yourself to others or set the same goals as them.
Instead of trying to reach a goal of “full recovery,” focus on your own internal growth and celebrate all progress, no matter how small or minor as they may seem. Success could look like:
- Enjoying meals in a social setting
- Reducing negative self-talk
- Reconnecting with your passions
- Improving your relationships with others
- Regulating your emotions
- Self-acceptance
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Setbacks are all part of your journey. Don’t get down on yourself if you slip up—think of it as a learning experience and how you’re growing in your recovery.
Support Systems that Honor Individual Success
As always, an important part of recovery is to have a good support system around you to not only be there during the hard times, but also to celebrate your progress and wins. Your loved ones play a massive role in recognizing your achievements in recovery—be open to sharing your journey with them and embrace their happiness for you.
Clinicians
Your treatment team members (e.g., your dietitian, care partner, therapist) are also some of your biggest cheerleaders. They will encourage and validate your progress and can also adjust your treatment goals according to your needs.
Loved Ones
Lean on your loved ones whom you know you can count on and who will listen without judgment, whether these are family members, friends, or even coworkers. These people know you the best and can provide compassion and understanding when you need it most.
Community
Many community groups exist to provide support to those in need. These groups often consist of people who are experiencing similar difficulties but have different recovery journeys and stories to share. Hearing about the diverse journeys of others can help you redefine or expand the definition of what success means to you.
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